It’s The Why Stupid

It is part of the cure to want to be cured.

— Seneca —


The other day, I talked with a friend about why most people fall short of fulfilling their New Year’s resolutions.

I told him they lack a strong enough “WHY.”

They create the “what,” i.e., I will lose thirty pounds in ninety days.

They create the “how,” i.e., I will exercise with a personal trainer for one hour a day, six days a week, while eliminating bread, sugar, and alcohol from my diet.

But, they never write down the WHY. Why am I trying to lose weight?

Then, after doing great the first couple of weeks, they begin to cheat, make excuses and rationalize falling back into old behavior.

Then they give up.

Is this you?

Read on.


If you want to achieve your goals, you’ve got to want it more than you don’t want it.

The “want” is the key to the cure.

What makes us want something more than we don’t want it?

It’s the WHY, stupid!

For five years, I tried to get sober.

I knew what I needed to do, and I knew how to do it.

I would stop using, gain some positive momentum, and then the committee in my head would convince me that I wasn’t that bad, and I would drink one drink with the intention of it being only one drink. Then a few days later, I was off to the races again.

Failure after failure made me want to give up and die.

BTW…feeling like a failure becomes a playground for the devil.

Then after a prayer of desperation, God came to me in the form of an intervention, and my wife, brother, boss, and a young man from AA explained to me everything I would lose if I didn’t get sober. But, on the other hand, they also shared with me all the things I would gain from sobriety.

At that moment, “God’s angels” gave me my first genuine desire to stop drinking and drugging because they helped me identify the WHY behind my sobriety.

I’ve gained so much from living sober.

If want to know more about my journey to sobriety, give my book, Victory Over Opiates, a read. It’s available through Amazon.

Why do you want to stop a particular vice?

Why do you want to achieve the goal(s) you’ve written down for 2022?

A clearly stated and heartfelt WHY that you review consistently just may provide the inspiration and the energy you need to achieve that New Year’s resolution that always seems to escape you.

Plus…turn that WHY over to God on at least a daily basis.

I always write from experience.

Proverbs 19:21, “Many are the plans in the mind of a man, but it is the purpose of the Lord that will stand.”


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