It is never too late to be what you might have been.

— George Eliot —


Many years ago, after barely avoiding death when my stomach ruptured, I had a follow-up visit with Dr. Joe, who saved my life.

During that appointment, he said something to me that I never forgot; “Jay, your two boys need you. You have to stop burning the candle at both ends.”

He sensed something was causing my life to go sideways.

His years as a surgeon most likely told him there was a significant contributing factor that led to my life-and-death situation with my stomach…stomachs rarely rupture on their own.

I was working seven days a week back then and on the slippery downhill slope of a horrible substance abuse disorder.

On my drive home after my doctor’s appointment, I remember thinking about how I didn’t want to be the person I had become, and I began thinking about the person I wanted to be.

Five months later, I sought help for my addiction and started the journey of becoming the person “I might have been.”


What changes do you need to make to your life to start the journey of becoming the person you “might have been?”

Jeremiah 29:11, “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.”


P.E.A.C.E.ful Living…

Plan – A dream/goal remains a dream until it is put into writing. Putting your dream or goal in writing is the first step in creating a PLAN to achieve it. When you fail to plan, you plan to fail.

Effort – Turning your dream/goal into reality requires a commitment to putting forth consistent and focused EFFORT toward the execution of your plan. Nothing great in life happens without working hard.

Attitude – Your chances of achieving your dream exponentially increase if you believe you will achieve it. Always remember that your ATTITUDE determines your altitude in life.

Community – Nothing great in life happens by doing it alone. The chances of achieving your dream expand as your COMMUNITY of positive mentors and coaches expand. You become the average of the five people you spend the most time with…and yes, spending time with “people” through books and instructional videos factors into your average.

Energy – Chasing and achieving your dream requires optimal mental, physical, and spiritual levels of ENERGY. Take care of yourself; no one else will.

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