Let Your “Flies” Go

Anything you can't control is teaching you how to let go.

— Unknown —

A couple of days ago I found myself going one on one with a horsefly.

It was just me and him…or her…who knows what it was but it certainly was annoying and had been disrupting our lives for almost two weeks.

It was the most elusive fly I’ve ever dealt with in my life. Every time I thought my fly swatter had smashed it, a few seconds later its maddening buzz echoed in my ears.

Finally, I had it trapped in our laundry room.

The door was shut.

I was determined to not leave the room until the 3/4 inch long horse fly took its last breath. I didn’t care how many times I missed, I was staying until my job was complete.

About ten minutes into this titanic struggle I was so angry at its elusiveness that I started swatting the air repeatedly in hopes it would run into my plastic mesh weapon on its own.

In moments of coherence, I thought about opening the window in the room and seeing if the fly would exit as it seemed to be attracted to the window. But if I did that I would be giving in and not accomplishing my goal of putting an end to the fly’s life.

Then I gave in.

I opened the window.

The fly exited.


How many minutes in a day do we waste trying to control something we have no control over?

How many times do we hold onto a person or situation that has harmed us because we think we need to get even?

Maybe you can’t relate, but I know I can.

Sometimes letting go–for good–is the most difficult, yet rewarding action we will ever take in our lives.


If you are holding onto something that is driving you crazy picture yourself opening a window and letting it go while allowing God’s Spirit to enter and repeat the exercise as often as needed.

It works…I write from experience.

Ephesians 4:31-32, “Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.”



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