What’s Your Why?

The secret to permanently breaking any bad habit is to love something greater than the habit.

— Bryant McGill —

The gambler limped over to his Master and asked, “I was caught cheating yesterday, so my partners beat me up and threw me out of the window. What would you advise me to do?”

The master looked straight through the man and replied, “If I were you, from now on I would play on the ground floor.”

This startled his students, “Why didn’t you tell him to stop gambling?” they demanded.

“Because I knew he wouldn’t,” replied the Master.

This tale comes from “The Heart of the Enlightened” by Anthony de Mello and it says so much about what it takes for real change to happen in your life.

Stephan Covey wrote in his book, “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People,” that in order to change a habit you need the “want to” (desire), the “what to” (knowledge) and the “how to” (skill). I believe there is a fourth “to,” and that is the “why to.”

A big ‘why’ creates a bigger ‘want,’ which opens our eyes and ears to the ‘what’ and ‘how.’

I write from my own experience of overcoming drug addiction…my wife, kids, and family all combined to create a very powerful WHY for me.



Romans 12:2, “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is–his good, pleasing and perfect will.”

P.E.A.C.E. for Dreamers…

 P – (Plan) A dream remains a dream until it is written down. Putting your dream in writing is the first step in creating a PLAN to achieve it.

E – (Effort) Turning your dream into reality requires a commitment to putting forth consistent and focused EFFORT toward the execution of your plan.

A – (Attitude) If you think you can achieve your dream, you will. Your ATTITUDE always determines your altitude in life.

C – (Community) Nothing great in life happens by doing it alone. The chances of realizing your dream expand as your COMMUNITY of positive mentors and peers expand.

E – (Energy) Chasing and attaining your dream requires optimal levels of mental, physical, and spiritual ENERGY. Take care of yourself!

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